I have grown a lot in the past year, and in a week I’m about to chalk up another number to my age. I’ve graduated from university, I have connected with old friends and made new ones, and made some very tough decisions on the paths I wanted to follow. But I have never for once deemed myself or my time more important than anyone else’s.
Common sense doesn’t seem to be common, especially when it comes to courtesy. One of the most profound lessons I have learned over the past year and some months is that there is one thing we take for granted from other people, something that we fail to see the equality and humbleness in. And that is time. Time is a great healer and equalizer, yet most of us try to weigh our own time biased toward ourselves. What I mean by that is, we are selfish with our time.
Don’t presume that I mean you are not allowed to have your own time or choose yourself when you need to. That is a given and your own health and emotions should be paramount in your own life. You are always allowed to say no to something unhealthy or unworthy in your mind.
But when we make plans, appointments, dates, schedules, we bring in someone else’s time into the picture as well. And that is where people start to piss each other off. We are inherently selfish with our time, because we don’t know how much we have left. But that causes us to trivialize the efforts of others and the time they give us just because we are so obsessed with our own time.
The value of time is constant.
Not everyone gets the same amount of time to spend, but the quality and value of someone’s time never changes. You can never assume that your time is worth more than someone else’s, no matter your relationship to that person. Just because you might be a parent, a boss, a customer, does not mean the other person’s time is worth less than yours. If you treat someone and their time with respect, they will do the same for you; and if they don’t, they are not worth your time and that is when you can choose to walk away from it.
If you make someone’s time worth it, they will return in good favor for you.
If you treat someone’s time as if it’s lesser quality than yours, you are unworthy of spending time at all.
I have a deep respect for those people who can not only be their own person, but can make the commitment to others around them, with their time. It does not mean that you have to give up all of yourself and your free time to serve others, but if you do make plans, go anywhere that requires interacting with people, others in the area had to make the choice with their own time as well, and however much time each person has to spend in this world, it is not worth more or less than yours.
The value of time is the same for every person you will ever encounter.